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It seems somewhat counterintuitive to set out on a quest to find love by focusing on who you are on your lonesome, but when it comes to manifesting a Higher Love, i.e a love that lifts you up rather than has you falling, then the only thing you need is something you already possess, yourSELF.

Too often we walk into a new relationship or at the very least a dating experience, looking for our potential suitor to tick a bunch boxes, fill a few gaps and make us feel something we convince ourselves is impossible to feel without them. But if you know anything about manifestation, you’ll know that like attracts like and if you want to become a love magnet (I mean, who doesn’t) it all starts with an acute sense of self awareness.

You’ve likely heard the terms self-care and self-love thrown around in the context of body brushing, journaling and eating your greens, but true love and care for oneself comes down to knowing who the bloody hell you are! Most of us don’t…

I describe it as your personal vibration. When your personal vibration is strong, you feel like the truest version of you. You feel confident, comfortable, your posture is probably nice and tall and your words flow with ease. When your vibration is weak you feel stuck and stagnant, you can’t find comfortability in anything and you’re likely not the witty and clever gal (or guy) you know you can be.

Self awareness is about knowing what strengthens your personal vibration and what weakens it (and I’m not even talking about relationships, yet). My vibration is strong when I’m around certain people, when I’m working in my business, when I integrate enough ‘me time’ into my week and when I’m doing the things that bring me joy. My vibration is weakened when I spend too much time on social media, when I fall into the comparison trap, when I spend too much time with people who drain me, or when I force myself to do things because I feel ‘I should’.

Once you know what it feels like when your vibration is strong then day to day you aim to choose things that keep it vibrating at their frequency. When it comes to love and dating this is helpful in two ways. When you’re vibrating at a strong frequency:

– You naturally attract people vibrating at a similar frequency to you! Score.

– You can use it as a barometer to determine whether someone you’re dating is bringing you closer or further away from that true authentic version of you. Make sense?

If you really want to manifest a Higher Love in 2021 you need to ask yourself 3 questions:

1. Who am I?

2. What lights me up?

3. And how do I want to feel in love?

And then prioritise the answers to those questions in all of your pursuits in love. Self awareness really is your greatest superpower.

Jordanna Levin is is an author, podcast host & self-love & manifestation expert. You can read more about Jordanna’s wellness routine here!